Listen
(a draft from the year 2016 just got posted lol)
Most people want to be heard, not many are willing to listen.
We have conversations as a part of our daily routine, its what we do errday. If it is done right, you might have another conversation with that same person again but if it is done wrongly, the other person might not want to see you again (or interested to have any more conversation with you)
Communication is everything.
Relationship is ruined because the communication is done wrongly, in workplace the employee is despised with the manager bcs the manager only knows how to order things but not communicating.
Communication is a two way process.
Talk AND listen.
In boolean operator, AND means both MUST be present in order to get outcomes. If either one is missing, 0 outcome will be produced.
Talk Listen Communication
0 1 0
1 0 0
1 1 1
Please bear this logical table in your head every time you are having a conversation k. Puahaha logical table some more lol.
Anyways,
We need to do both. We can't be the only one who do the talking. And we can't just listen without speaking up either. We must be both. The talker and the listener.
Talking is not the main issue, everyone can express themselves quite well I suppose. It's the listening part we've got problem with. People don't want to spend their time listening to other people but expect others to invest their time to listen to them huh.
We often listen to reply, when the other person is talking we are busy in our own mind building up reply sentences and not focusing on what was said. Its okay if you can't give prompt reply. Just make sure you understand completely whats being said to you, the rest will just flow on its own -- what you've got to say i mean. When you listen intently, you'd know how to reply don't worry. Even a more meaningful reply I reckon.
How to be a good listener;
1) Keep your eye contact to the person talking
2) Wait until the other person finishes their sentence -- DO NOT INTERRUPT
3) Give short reply occasionally
I know there are some people who were born to be outspoken, very confident in speaking up their mind. Or a person who were born as a quiet and reserved, doesn't express themselves well.
But these communication skills can be learned. We can train ourselves and it might surprise us what difference will it make for us!
Most people want to be heard, not many are willing to listen.
We have conversations as a part of our daily routine, its what we do errday. If it is done right, you might have another conversation with that same person again but if it is done wrongly, the other person might not want to see you again (or interested to have any more conversation with you)
Communication is everything.
Relationship is ruined because the communication is done wrongly, in workplace the employee is despised with the manager bcs the manager only knows how to order things but not communicating.
Communication is a two way process.
Talk AND listen.
In boolean operator, AND means both MUST be present in order to get outcomes. If either one is missing, 0 outcome will be produced.
Talk Listen Communication
0 1 0
1 0 0
1 1 1
Please bear this logical table in your head every time you are having a conversation k. Puahaha logical table some more lol.
Anyways,
We need to do both. We can't be the only one who do the talking. And we can't just listen without speaking up either. We must be both. The talker and the listener.
Talking is not the main issue, everyone can express themselves quite well I suppose. It's the listening part we've got problem with. People don't want to spend their time listening to other people but expect others to invest their time to listen to them huh.
We often listen to reply, when the other person is talking we are busy in our own mind building up reply sentences and not focusing on what was said. Its okay if you can't give prompt reply. Just make sure you understand completely whats being said to you, the rest will just flow on its own -- what you've got to say i mean. When you listen intently, you'd know how to reply don't worry. Even a more meaningful reply I reckon.
How to be a good listener;
1) Keep your eye contact to the person talking
2) Wait until the other person finishes their sentence -- DO NOT INTERRUPT
3) Give short reply occasionally
I know there are some people who were born to be outspoken, very confident in speaking up their mind. Or a person who were born as a quiet and reserved, doesn't express themselves well.
But these communication skills can be learned. We can train ourselves and it might surprise us what difference will it make for us!
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