#13 I love ME
Assalamualaikum and heyya mate (I dreamed hard to be accepted to Hogwarts please excuse me)
After being to a few events, networking and meeting new people I sometimes tend to become insecure and all cautious about how I present myself. I would try to share about things that might be interesting enough to be discussed but after all I wouldn't have the slightest idea what could be catchy enough for this completely new person I've met. I would prepare and make research of the recent inventions, technologies or issues so that should somebody pop up a discussion on that matter I would have a few cents to chip into the conversation.
But then, I figure out it is so draining to try so hard to impress these new people I've met, whom I might not even have any connection with at all. I'm well understood that this first encounter is important in networking - this new people could change your entire life! But let's be real, you could never impress everybody, well that's a definite thing. So, I've made up my mind to just be the best version of myself - not trying so hard for other people, but just for my own sake. Cause I love myself! I want to be competent, so I would step up into a new level of journey each time. I want to up my game, for my own satisfaction, that's it. I want to stop trying so hard for the people who doesn't even matter.
Sure I'll be at my best version, if people liked it alhamdulillah but if they don't, i'm not at loss cause why would I be worried about the person who doesn't like my innate behavior? Sure people can change, but to disfigure their innate self? That ain't gonna happen. I'll love people who love me, and let go those who don't. Simple. I hated over-thinking and playing the "What Ifs" in my head. I rarely do that to be honest haha which I'm so glad.
One day somebody told me this, and had me living with these words till this day, thank you for saying this to me, you had helped me to have a peace mind. So he said,
"We cannot control what people think about us, what had happened had happened, and be it. There's nothing you can do to change their perceptions"
And then I've had this sudden clear vision you know like "OH YEZ THO" haha
This doesn't just apply for the networking session or first encounter conversation, what I'm trying to share is for your entire life journey too! There would be times when even your friends couldn't accept who you are, but you trying so hard to keep them? You wanna 'fit-in' with the group? Please don't. God no. Do not change yourself simply to be accepted. It ain't worth it mate. Trust me. Right people will come to you, but only if you work yourself for it.
Today, if somebody misinterpreted my intention or my statements I couldn't care less. These people doesn't worth my worries, I had bigger meaningful issues to think of so let them be. I can only ask Allah to deal with their thoughts, prevents me from saying hurtful or sensitive words and guides me to become a good person with my words and actions. This is the best I can do, I pray and try to bring myself to where I wanna be but since I am a human (obviously) of course I make mistakes and am incapable of pleasing everybody all the time, so if they can't accept that then BE IT.
But here's the rub, if you could please Allah, you're gonna do well pretty much in everything - spiritually, mentally and physically.
Isn't this is so much simpler peeps? Oh yes please do this from this moment onward! Trust me your head is gonna clear up and you can focus on other things that truly matter.
So, just be yourself! Ops I'm sorry, be the BEST version of yourself :)
Now say this,
" i love myself, i would be the best version of myself, i wouldn't go all crazy if someone dislikes me, right people would stay"
There, invest time and effort in yourself first before looking for the "you" for the previous line (im talking about the i love you thingy duhh)
Right people would love you for who you are kayh?
So, till then and may peace be with you! Cheerio!
After being to a few events, networking and meeting new people I sometimes tend to become insecure and all cautious about how I present myself. I would try to share about things that might be interesting enough to be discussed but after all I wouldn't have the slightest idea what could be catchy enough for this completely new person I've met. I would prepare and make research of the recent inventions, technologies or issues so that should somebody pop up a discussion on that matter I would have a few cents to chip into the conversation.
But then, I figure out it is so draining to try so hard to impress these new people I've met, whom I might not even have any connection with at all. I'm well understood that this first encounter is important in networking - this new people could change your entire life! But let's be real, you could never impress everybody, well that's a definite thing. So, I've made up my mind to just be the best version of myself - not trying so hard for other people, but just for my own sake. Cause I love myself! I want to be competent, so I would step up into a new level of journey each time. I want to up my game, for my own satisfaction, that's it. I want to stop trying so hard for the people who doesn't even matter.
Sure I'll be at my best version, if people liked it alhamdulillah but if they don't, i'm not at loss cause why would I be worried about the person who doesn't like my innate behavior? Sure people can change, but to disfigure their innate self? That ain't gonna happen. I'll love people who love me, and let go those who don't. Simple. I hated over-thinking and playing the "What Ifs" in my head. I rarely do that to be honest haha which I'm so glad.
One day somebody told me this, and had me living with these words till this day, thank you for saying this to me, you had helped me to have a peace mind. So he said,
"We cannot control what people think about us, what had happened had happened, and be it. There's nothing you can do to change their perceptions"
And then I've had this sudden clear vision you know like "OH YEZ THO" haha
This doesn't just apply for the networking session or first encounter conversation, what I'm trying to share is for your entire life journey too! There would be times when even your friends couldn't accept who you are, but you trying so hard to keep them? You wanna 'fit-in' with the group? Please don't. God no. Do not change yourself simply to be accepted. It ain't worth it mate. Trust me. Right people will come to you, but only if you work yourself for it.
Today, if somebody misinterpreted my intention or my statements I couldn't care less. These people doesn't worth my worries, I had bigger meaningful issues to think of so let them be. I can only ask Allah to deal with their thoughts, prevents me from saying hurtful or sensitive words and guides me to become a good person with my words and actions. This is the best I can do, I pray and try to bring myself to where I wanna be but since I am a human (obviously) of course I make mistakes and am incapable of pleasing everybody all the time, so if they can't accept that then BE IT.
But here's the rub, if you could please Allah, you're gonna do well pretty much in everything - spiritually, mentally and physically.
Isn't this is so much simpler peeps? Oh yes please do this from this moment onward! Trust me your head is gonna clear up and you can focus on other things that truly matter.
So, just be yourself! Ops I'm sorry, be the BEST version of yourself :)
Now say this,
" i love myself, i would be the best version of myself, i wouldn't go all crazy if someone dislikes me, right people would stay"
There, invest time and effort in yourself first before looking for the "you" for the previous line (im talking about the i love you thingy duhh)
Right people would love you for who you are kayh?
So, till then and may peace be with you! Cheerio!
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